Boy Has Online Dating Come A Long Way – Question Is – Is It In a Good Way?

In pursuit of excellence, I’ve interviewed 100s of online dating folks, both men and women, and it is just fascinating how different ethnic groups, religious affiliations, ages, regions and types of people view the process. Still the most interesting part of this process to write an Online Dating eBook has been to study its history. One well-researched online dater explained how it was back in the beginning, early to mid-90s, specifically just how quickly the system was abused by daters hiding behind their keyboards, my acquaintance explains:

“Way back in the days of Compuserve, there were a few of guys who were using multiple logins. One would contact their “mark” in a very sexual manner, the other in a very upright/romantic manner, or perhaps other specific approaches. Oddly, it was men they were targeting, getting them all hot and bothered sexually so they could reveal the guy had been talking to a man the whole time. It was wacky. I’m really not too interested in the nutty folks; I’ve really met some very nice guys.”

There are whole firms that help protect Corporation Brand Names by infiltrating forums and chatrooms to quell complaints, and Political Operatives have the same folks out making it look like there are huge numbers or a ground swell of support for something when there isn’t. Our own CIA did this during the Arab Spring in Egypt, Tunisia, Libya, and of course these are all Cold War tactics, and guerrilla warfare strategies using a new “social media” medium. In the stock market the SEC is constantly catching “Pump and Dump” schemes in the pink sheets and penny stocks. What do they say, “You can believe none of what you hear, some of what you read, and most of what you see?”

And although I enjoy spy novels, and believe to first look to Occam’s Razor, it’s also wise to be mindful of all the techniques of smarty-pants humans thinking they can play games. They are out there, and I just assume they are all over the dating sites. However, when you physically meet people, you can fairly easily ascertain their true intentions.

I’ve always thought that it would be nice if everyone had to verify themselves online, and I’ve heard the arguments from the EFF and others as to why anonymous use of the Internet ought to be allowed to ensure freedom of speech, and the calling out of corruption, sometimes I think that it does a disservice to the trust in such a wonderful communication system.

I am certain neither of is surprised by any of the activities online from the Russian Bride scam to the US citizen Afghanistan Contractor scam asking lonely wealthy ladies for money. What I cannot understand is how anyone would be stupid enough to fall for that crap?

Yes, I’ve met some really nice gals too, people I will probably be friends with for life, even if we are not compatible as a couple. I’ve even helped network people together for business, or things they are trying to do in their lives, since I have a large network of friends. It’s too bad the scams and game-players, they kind of ruin it and make everyone shy, afraid, or paranoid – of course, just because you are paranoid on a dating site doesn’t mean someone isn’t trying to scam you right?

The 10 Smartest Things You Can Do for Your Business Attire This Year

The British have a saying. They will call someone a smart dresser. This does not mean someone that is able to hack the Prada website to get their clothes 90% off. It means someone who is clean-looking, well put together, and stylish. It is more Kate Middleton than Kate Moss. Both are stylish dressers, but you would say that Kate Middleton is a “smarter” dresser.

There is no place more appropriate to be a smart dresser than at work. There are very smart things that you can do to and for your business attire. So listen up and smarten up. Here are ten things you can do right away to increase the IQ of your business attire.

  1. Add a pussy bow blouse into your work wardrobe rotation. It is the easiest way to up your wardrobe game. It also comes with the added benefit of pulling off the sexy secretary or sexy librarian look.
  2. Get a statement necklace. It’s so easy to throw this on with anything and look like you are trying. T-shirt with necklace = smart. Blouse with necklace = smart. Tank top with necklace = smart. It’s so easy.
  3. Shoes in an unusual color. Step outside the box and get a pair of shoes that are red, emerald green, canary yellow, or royal purple. Just get something that will set you apart and stand out. Throw them on occasionally with your different work outfits and people will instantly think you are a fashionista. No one will suspect that you secretly go home and change into a pair of Birkenstocks.
  4. Invest in a great watch. It does not have to be a very expensive one, but it should be something that looks nice on your wrist. It instantly makes you look like you are more professional.
  5. Get a white blazer and a black blazer and throw them on and interchange them. Here is the “smart” trick: don’t wear the black one with black or the white one with white. Intermix them. A blazer makes you look more pulled together, even if you are just wearing a t-shirt and jeans to work. A blazer is also a great way to cover up skin, so you can wear tanks and other skin-baring tops.
  6. Get a pair of black opaque tights or black wool tights. You will be surprised by how many of your skirts and dresses become work appropriate when you are not showing so much skin. Throw on opaque tights, wool tights, or even leggings under some of your favorite dresses to get away with wearing them at work.
  7. You will also need a long black blazer. This is to wear with your dresses. Again, the long blazer will allow you to wear more form-fitting clothes to work because it will covering up the Kardashian pieces (hips and butt).
  8. You also need to learn to channel your inner prepster. Get a button-up blouse that has an emblem on the upper breast. It can be a crest, an alligator, logo, or a polo pony. This is awesome because you can wear it with jeans and look dressed up. There have even been studies that show that when you wear a designer logo, you are perceived better, and clothing has even been shown to increase charity donations if the solicitor is wearing a designer logo.
  9. A very smart item for your wardrobe is a cardigan because it is not as stuffy as a suit blazer. However, instead of getting a solid color cardigan and looking like the stay-at-home mom in a dish detergent commercial, you can get a cardigan with a print or pattern on it, like houndstooth, plaid, floral, striped, or polka dot. This adds a little personality to this smarty pants item in your wardrobe.
  10. Last but not least is the t-shirt bra in the correct size. This bra will help your clothes to lie nicely against your body, and if you get it in the correct size, you’ll notice that (surprise!) you’ll look like you have more of a waist.